5 Signs It’s Time To Quit Your Job

More than half of the Australian workforce are considering quitting their jobs in 2023.

If you’re in this boat, you may be wondering – am I just going through a start-of-the-year funk, or is it actually time to move on?

Check out the link below to read Amanda’s five signs that you should not ignore when it comes to your wellbeing and workplace.

https://au.finance.yahoo.com/news/5-signs-its-time-to-quit-your-job-231133284.html?guccounter=1

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How To Beat Post-Holiday Blues

As the work year gets into full swing, expectations about our energy levels are high.

“People can still feel burnt out after the holidays for several reasons.” Says Amanda. Feelings of burnout at this time of year are common. Although quitting is not an option to achieve a work-life balance and to protect against future burnout, you must recover from the stress responses your body has in play.

 

Follow the link to read Amanda’s tips on how to beat the post-holiday blues in The Age article. 

https://www.theage.com.au/business/workplace/how-to-beat-the-post-holiday-blues-20230131-p5cgxu.html

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Couples Workshop/Cruise March 2023 – Information

Workshop while Cruising Sydney to Tasmania Return

 

We are delighted that you are planning to join us on our Couples Retreat and Workshop. Amanda Gordon is a well-known couples expert, Clinical Psychologist, Media Psychologist and author, and is excited to give you the boost your relationship needs, using her skill and empathy to help you build trust and confidence in each other.

 

Rediscover the fun. Enjoy a beautiful return cruise to Tasmania from Sydney, with enough spare time to reconnect with each other. While onboard, you will participate in exclusive, specially designed lectures, workshops and couples counselling with Amanda Gordon, who will be available throughout the cruise. Each day you will learn new ways of being a couple, and new ideas to carry forward into your life together. Be inspired by other couples. Learn from each other. Take advantage of the facilities of the cruise ship to have a holiday and build memories for your future together.

 

The cost of the workshop, including the cruise, in a balcony stateroom, is $5000 per couple (based on current Celebrity Cruise pricing). We will only proceed if we have sufficient registrants to create a meaningful experience for everyone. There is a maximum of twelve couples, but we will only go ahead if we can create a group who would respond to similar experiences for their growth.

 

If you’re interested in joining us on our Couples Cruise or have any questions, please enquire at info@armchairpsychology.com.au.

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Looking forward to meeting you on your journey.

 

Amanda Gordon FAPS
Armchair Psychology Practice

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Join our Couple’s Cruise to Tasmania! – Limited spots available

How’s your relationship right now? Feeling jaded from working side by side, walking side by side, eating side by side, sleeping side by side?  Perhaps you are no longer noticing that special something that brought you two together? Are you no longer resolving arguments? Wondering what steps you can take to revitalise or get your mojo back?

You are not alone in struggling to make the new normal fit with your relationship and face the future together.

Here is an idea!

Spend time with renowned Psychologist and Relationships Go-To, Amanda Gordon, while cruising the coast of NSW and visiting Tasmania.

Plan ahead. This 5 night adventure could change your lives!

Spend time on your relationship while you enjoy all the delights of cruising.

Join Amanda and her team and learn the joys of oneness – and how to implement them in your relationship.

Your time on board includes an hour two-to-one with Amanda as well as group sessions – and finish on the last night with a group dinner to share what you have learned.

You may also make some new friends!

Amanda is only taking a maximum of twelve couples on this marvellous retreat – and you will have full use of her time and wisdom to work on your relationship and gain all the benefits that come from mindfully working with your partner to grow and invigorate your relationship.

Of course there will still be time to take advantage of the ship board food and entertainment if you choose – or you can return to your cabin to focus on each other, once the formal work is done.

Please get in touch with us via email to register your interest in this amazing event and to find out further details.

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Personality Changes on the Journey of Grief

Grief is unpredictable and no two people or grieving processes are the same. It can be felt and expressed in so many ways, where it can overwhelm us and even causes changes in our personality. It can seem dififcult to do seemingly normal, routine things as grief impacts every facet of your life.

 

It’s okay to have trouble adjusting to life after a loss of a loved one, there are many challenges involved in the journey afterwards.

 

Follow the link to read more about  YourLoss’ article on the challenges of Grief: https://yourloss.com.au/2022/09/15/personality-changes-on-the-journey-of-grief/ 

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The Power of Positive Thinking

 

Humans are hardwired to be optimistic. It is the life force that keeps us moving forward and picks us up when we are down. “Optimism allows us to see the light at the end of the tunnel, if we hold on to it during the bad times, and the good, life will always seem that little bit brighter. We will always have something to hope for, to strive for and be excited about.” – Amanda Gordon.

 

Recently I took a holiday to Fiji. That magical place where time slows down and welcoming smiles abound. While feeling relaxed and unwinding, I couldn’t help but notice the joy, delight and positive outlook on life the Fijians tend to show, despite their varied circumstances. Now I know I am generalising, but it is hard not to notice their sense of happiness and the way they try to bestow some of this joyful spirit onto their visitors.

 

It made me remember how important having a positive and optimistic outlook can be in helping us throughout our lives. Being optimistic doesn’t mean that you are happy and positive all day, everyday. That would be a false and impossible way to live. It is a more general outlook on life, where you will have ups and downs like anyone, however being optimistic provides a strength that you can call upon to help deal with life’s challenges. 

 

Optimism transforms setbacks into learning experiences, and allows us to realise that our worst days will pass, that bad times are always temporary, and tomorrow is a new, and may be a better day. 

 

Being optimistic has numerous benefits for our physical and mental health. Those who are positive have been proven to live longer, can manage pain better, have improved immune and cardiovascular function, and, in general, exhibit greater physical functioning. What’s more, it can lessen the symptoms of anxiety and depression, improve problem-solving capacity and help protect against burnouts.

 

Tips to becoming more optimistic:

  • Mindfulness practice, such as meditation, help focus us on the present, taking us away from the regrets of the past and anxieties about the future. The closer we are to the present, the more appreciative we can be of our lives and the world around us.
  • Set aside a few minutes each day to jot down some of the things you are grateful for. Gratitude journals are proven to not only increase our appreciation of life, but make us more optimistic and resilient.
  • Writing down your positive thoughts can help decrease mental distress and improve mental well-being.

 

Although, it is easy to think that optimism is all about the individual – how can I improve? What can I achieve? It is even more powerful if we can channel that energy into our relationships with others, as author John Kessel says, “shared victory is a double victory. Shared defeat is half a defeat.”

 

Succeeding as part of a team extends beyond the ‘feel good’ factor of teamwork, and makes the achievement more empowering, more memorable, more fun, and more of a victory than if we were to win alone. 

 

Just like I felt in Fiji with a sense of shared joy, basking in the glory of the day with those around me, a positive outlook can do much more than you think. Optimism makes life better for you, and for everyone around you as well. 

 

Want help cultivating a greater sense of optimism in your life? Reach out to Armchair Psychology today for a free 10 minute chat.

 

About Amanda Gordon

 

Over her more than 30 years in practice, Amanda has assisted literally thousands of people to understand and manage their feelings and to make positive life choices.

Amanda has an innate ability to translate psychological wisdom into practical life skills. Highly relatable, Amanda is experienced in helping people deal with the full range of life crises, including managing relationships, coping with grief and loss, dealing with stress and managing change. She works with individuals, couples and families, helping them enrich their lifestyle and their effectiveness in the world.

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Ways to embrace ageing as a natural part of life

Getting older can be challenging, but as they say, it’s better than the alternative. Here are some tips on how to age gracefully.

 

Feeling a little wrinklier, a touch greyer or a wee bit slower than you used to? As much as we’d probably all like to stay young forever, sadly no one’s (yet) come up with the formula for eternal youth.

 

Studies show 21st-century Western society has an obsession with youthfulness and popular culture presents sexual allure as women’s passport to success. But given ageing is a fact of life, it makes sense that we learn to embrace, rather than fight, the idea of time marching on.

 

Follow the link to read Amanda Gordon’s discussion of some the privilege of ageing with The House of Wellness Magazine.

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Tips for Maintaining Positive Mental Health in Older Age

“The older we get, the more we become settled in ourselves, and the more authentically we can connect with others.” Amanda Gordon, Clinical Psychologist.

 

Our elder years can be an exciting time; a time where we get to experience some of life’s greatest moments, such as witnessing your children become adults, rejoicing in your grandchildren and retiring from work. However, it can also come with its fair share of hardships, and at times it can be challenging to stay mentally strong and healthy.

 

As we transition into the later stages of our lives, additional factors can impede upon the process of maintaining our health. In particular, our bodies become weaker, and require more care and attention than they did in our 20s. As our physical health and mental health are intrinsically linked, protecting and taking care of yourself is essential.  

 

Living a balanced lifestyle is vital to staying healthy. Here are some simple yet often under-appreciated tips to help you get the most out of your life.

 

Appreciate the simple things

It is very easy to create a to-do list and just push through daily, without too much thought.  However, stopping to smell the roses, notice the sun on our faces, breathe in the fresh air, will add joy to our lives and help us put the world in perspective. As we get older, we may move a little more slowly.  That’s a good thing – as we slow ourselves we can move more purposefully and mindfully through our days, and breathing out will remind us of the pleasures of just being.

 

Move your body

Exercise brings with it numerous benefits for your physical health. It is proven to reduce the risk of chronic illness and disease, and lower the risk of falling by improving coordination and balance. But did you know that it also plays a big role in improving your mental health? 

 

Exercise causes a natural release of endorphins and serotonin in the brain. These are chemicals that make you happy. In the release of the chemicals, exercise can help you manage stress and regulate your mood, as well as improve your quality of sleep. A good mood enables you to think more clearly and better appreciate what life has to offer.

 

The key to reaping these benefits is to move your body regularly. I walk, I dance and I practice pilates to maintain strength. Remember it is important to listen to how your body feels and adjust your routine in order to minimise the risk of injury. Embrace walking, stretching and low intensity repetitions as these will help you get exercise into your day in a way that is manageable. Adding a social aspect by exercising with a friend is also a great way to stay connected. 

 

Do not feel pressured to exercise in a certain way, just do whatever works best for you and enjoy the extra time you have in your life to be active. 

 

Eat balanced, healthy meals

Poor nutrition can affect everything from your energy levels, to your moods, to how long it takes for you to recover from an illness. 

 

The link between healthy eating and good mental health is strong. A balanced diet has been proven to help people deal with stress, more effectively regulate their emotions and get a good night’s sleep.

 

I now relish in taking the time to cook a delicious, yet healthy meal. Food preparation and cooking is a delightful ritual you can enjoy with your partner or a friend, and can help to ensure you are eating a balanced diet. We all know by now, a diet full of colourful vegetables, lean meats, oily fish, legumes, nuts and seeds along with the essential elixir of life, water, is the best type of nutrition for us.

 

Get Enough Sleep Every Night

Sleeping difficulties are a completely normal part of ageing. You may find that you start enjoying going to bed earlier and as a result wake up earlier as well. This is because as we get older, our circadian rhythms start to deteriorate. 

 

This is not something to be fearful of, as it just means that you will need to start prioritising sleep patterns. Avoiding technology in the hours before bed, not eating too close to bedtime and skipping late night drinks, will prepare you better for sleep.

 

I believe sleep is one of the biggest assets for ensuring good mental health. It is our natural reset button. A time where we can truly rest and recoup our energy, but the time as we go off to sleep is also a time for reflection, to process the events of our day.

 

Build and maintain your connections with others

Retirement from work can lead to a reduction in interactions with others.  Ensure that you maintain important connections, whether they be with family members, or your extended network.  Spend time growing your world with your peers and with the younger generations, giving of your wisdom and expanding your heart.

 

Live each day mindfully, with awareness of your body moving through the world, and your mind engaging with ideas and others.

 

Amanda Gordon is a Clinical Psychologist with over 30 years experience at Armchair Psychology based in the Eastern Suburbs of Sydney. Highly relatable, Amanda is experienced in helping people deal with the full range of life crises, including managing relationships, coping with grief and loss, dealing with stress and managing change. She works with individuals, couples and families, helping them enrich their lifestyle and their effectiveness in the world.

Armchair Psychology specialises in adult psychology services. If you feel that your mental health could benefit from our help, reach out for a free 10 minute chat today.

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The Importance of Community

We don’t often think about our community except as something that is just there. It is somehow more than family and we may not necessarily engage with it very much. We don’t necessarily reflect on our part in it or what it means to us.  However, for many, the pandemic has changed all that. When our movement was restricted, our community became our local area, as we noticed others walking the same streets. When our connection could only be over the internet, our community consisted of people who shared common interests and ideas. Psychologists know that being part of a community can enhance mental health. Amanda Gordon, Psychologist at Armchair Psychology says, “Connection with our community is a crucial element of mental wellbeing. Not only can it offer extra meaning and purpose to our everyday life, it can also provide a sense of belonging in a world that sometimes can seem all too disconnected.” 

Being part of a community helps build and maintain connections that give colour and shape to our lives. In short, these communities give us purpose. Whether online or in real life, community is our backbone. As the National Alliance on Mental Health stated, “We’re social beings, and we are not meant to live in isolation. Community is critical for us to thrive,” as it fuels three crucial elements for our mental health – belonging, support and purpose.

Australian Government studies show that those without social support are five times more likely to experience a mental illness, and that community participation is strongly linked to longevity and the retention of cognitive ability.

How does it work?

When you engage with a functioning community, you become part of a wider group.  Life is no longer just about you, but involves others as well.  If you are part of a community, you could expect the other members to look out for you, and you would be responsible to look out for them, too. What works best for the good of the community is what will make your life richer too.

Where can I find a community?

Once you look around, you’ll find that there are clubs or groups to suit almost any interest. Sport is a common way for many people to connect. There is the activity itself and there is also the group of people who join you in enjoyment of the activity.  That common interest can create a community. As a rule, it is a two-way process.  You join in the activity AND engage with the other people.  You give something by your shared interest and perhaps your involvement in supporting others.  You gain something through the people you meet and the opportunity to help and be helped. 

Volunteering can also enhance the benefits of community by connecting you to a wider and more varied social network. You get to form relationships with people from disparate backgrounds and locations, enriching your experience and appreciation for your own life. There is always a shortage of volunteers. From bush regeneration groups to homeless shelters and to even the 2022 Biennale of Sydney, there is a wealth of experiences to be had. Furthermore, your community does not have to be physical either. You can be a part of a global community, for example a like-minded facebook group or the fan club of a band.

For parents, community can be a protective factor for children, as it can grant them a sense of value. It is especially important during teenage years, as these groups can allow your child to feel more comfortable and confident, reducing the likelihood of behavioural issues (BeyondBlue, 2021). 

So, this week, we implore you to take a second to appreciate all the communities you are a part of. We want you to reach out, and start a chat with someone in your community because even if you are feeling good, it is time to start feeling great!

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Staying Healthy in the Holiday Season with ‘Nolo’ drinks

It’s December, which means it’s time for Christmas parties, summer holidays, and hangovers… Summer is an amazing time for many – and with COVID restrictions lifted, traveling and dancing with your friends has never been more appealing.

While this break is no doubt well-deserved, it’s important not to fall into unhealthy behaviours, such as excessive drinking, lack of sleep or even neglecting mental health issues. The good news is, there is a way to attend every social event without drinking every time, and this comes in the form of a ‘Nolo’ drink. 

What is ‘Nolo’?

‘Nolo’ in simple terms refers to drinks with no or low alcohol, but is designed to replicate or taste like one. The market for them has gone crazy in the past couple years, which comes as great news to those promoting healthy lifestyles. Most Aussie beer brands have launched their own Nolo products, such as Carlton Zero, Peroni Libera, Heineken Zero, etc, and there’s now even zero alcohol spirits and venues dedicated to these drinks!

As Aussies, we love our culture, but it’s often seen as strange to go without a drink at an event. Many of us can feel at a loss or not know what to do with our hands if we aren’t holding a drink, leading to us feeling uncomfortable. But if you have a no or low alcohol drink in your hand, you can enjoy the conversation and the party spirit, without regret.

We are firm believers of drinking in moderation to protect both your physical and mental health. That’s why we recommend trying out ‘Nolo’ drinks every now and then – especially if attending multiple events in a week. And no, we aren’t sponsored by any Nolo brands! 

Healthy Holiday Season Habits

When work starts to slow down for the year, it’s easy to fall out of exercise routines or neglect healthy eating. Of course – we all deserve a break this summer, but always prioritise your physical and mental wellbeing before anything else.

If you find yourself busy socialising or holidaying, remember to check in on how you are actually feeling and your inner dialogue, even if you think you’re feeling fine. Check that you are doing the right things in life to keep your body and mental health on the right track, like regular exercise (even if it’s just a quick walk), and self care.

If you feel you have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, our psychologists are here to help. Get in touch today. 

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